Mental Health

Combatting Loneliness With Courage

January 7, 2024 by Cheryl Silvera - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

Are you among the millions worldwide feeling lonely right now? Know that you are not alone in this emotion. The unprecedented times that we are living in have left so many feeling lonely. I know this may seem like a small comfort right now, but I want to share some good news. Let’s explore the loneliness experience and ways to ease it, together.

First of all, what is loneliness? According to Wikipedia, “Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with others …As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people.”((“Epidemic.” 03 September 2020. Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Ed. 29 August 2020 08:22 UTC, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Epidemic&oldid=975576774))

Loneliness is one of the greatest risk factors in maintaining good health. Would you believe that it is more dangerous than obesity or smoking 15 cigarettes per day? It increases our risk of mortality 45%.((Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, The Potential Public Health Relevance of Social Isolation and Loneliness: Prevalence, Epidemiology, and Risk Factors, Public Policy & Aging Report, Volume 27, Issue 4, 2017, Pages 127–130, https://doi.org/10.1093/ppar/prx030))

Loneliness has become a real problem for millions with little bearing on marital status, socioeconomic factors, or age. Previously, most people lived an agrarian lifestyle less likely to be associated with loneliness because is was commonly characterized by joint efforts to build, plant and harvest. Currently, our industrialized society has nearly entirely shifted to a city-based, urban consumer experience that has a “every-man-for-himself” vibe that easily can incubate loneliness.

To seek an answer to loneliness let’s consider the model of Christ outlined in the transcript of His love, the decalogue (Exodus 20:3-17), which bears the mark of social and God-connect. From the moment God placed humans on earth He gave them a guide to be in connection with each other, and with Him safely. The first four commandments refer to God and the following six gives us the blueprint of getting along with each other. God intended for humans to be in communities to combat loneliness, by communicating with each other and with Him. That is the intended construct of societies, and a great one at that!

So now I ask the question; how and why do we use courage to combat loneliness? Courage is described as bravery, confidence, grit, determination. It confronts hardship, fear, pain, danger, uncertainty, intimidation, and perhaps loneliness?

A courageous man jumping over a gap between two rocks

The Bible puts it this way, “Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the LORD” (Psalms 31:24). The word courage used in this text means to strengthen; to be strong; to cure; help; and repair.

Pointers on Courage to Combat Loneliness

1) Belonging to Christ

Have the courage to call upon Christ for help. Create a loving relationship with Him then talk to him as to a friend who is present beside you. “But when they in their trouble did turn unto the LORD God of Israel, and sought him, he was found of them” (2 Chronicles 15:4).

The goal is to remain undaunted and encouraged in the Lord so you can endure this present difficulty. Remember that you are His and nothing can shake that! “But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved” (Matthew 24:13). Tip: Consider joining a Bible study group. This can help you connect with God and likely believers at the same time!

2) Support

Have the courage to seek out a friend in love and ask for support. Paul did it in his plaintive pleading to Timothy; “Only Luke is with me. Take Mark, and bring him with thee” (2 Timothy 4:11). Tip: Video chat with friends or family when you can so as to maintain a sense of connectedness, even when you cannot physically be together.

3) Purpose

Have the courage to step out of your comfort zone and help someone else. It may save your life. “They helped every one his neighbor; and every one said to his brother, Be of good courage” (Isaiah 41:6).

But first, we must ourselves be encouraged and feel the love of God. John the beloved of Christ wrote to a cherished friend; “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth” (3 John 1:2). Living to share that love with others is undoubtedly the foundation of battling any difficulty, including loneliness. Tip: Find at least one person in your neighborhood to assist, briefly focusing on their needs instead of your own.

Following Christ calls for us to have courage to stand in the fullness of who we are without the dreaded emotion of loneliness. As ones cared for by God we can and should support each other through our shared experience of living through these difficult days. Stand in faith and courage as you combat loneliness today and know that we all children of God are praying and are with you. Soon, we are going home together, where we will never need to battle loneliness ever again!

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Give up Illusions and Dreams

December 31, 2023 by Dr. Cesar Vasconcellos de Souza - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

Today we are going to examine the consequences of our illusions. Often, we find it difficult to accept reality because of our aspirations. Even if we have healthy and ethical desires, we don’t always achieve many of them in this life. In addition, we often have to give up pursuing these desires, even if they are good ones, for various reasons. It is not without reason that Jesus Christ said that those who want to follow him and serve him must die to self, take up their cross, lose their lives, and this, one day at a time.

Jesus explained:

Whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
Matthew 16:25

Losing your life can mean giving up the pursuit of some dream, so that God’s will be done in your life, and this is not easy for anyone. However, in surrendering our desire, when you understand what God really wants from you, it becomes possible to liberate our self to pursue a life of service that gives meaning to our existence.

Much of the anxiety, sadness, anger, and frustration at unfulfilled desires can be alleviated when we die to self, to our desires, leaving the consequences in the hands of the Creator of the universe. It is a paradox that you die in order to live. Nature teaches us that the seed needs to be buried in the earth in order to grow into a mature plant that produces fruit.

Many of our mental sufferings can be rooted in illusions, desires, and attachments. God never requires anything from us without giving us something better in return, even if it involves a loss of material goods, fame, or social power. Living on illusions and desires can hold us back. Giving up our own desires for God’s sake brings relief. This doesn’t mean that we’ll be left empty-handed and have a sad or mediocre life. On the contrary, we become enthusiastic when we surrender to God. Did you know that the meaning of the word enthusiasm is to be full of God? Enthusiasm means being filled with God.

Jesus’ recommendation in the Gospels, in this context of our dreams and personal desires, is to die to self, to live with joy and unselfish attitudes produced by the influence of the Holy Spirit. People who are very controlling live in the illusion of control. This produces a lot of stress because so many things are beyond our control. But thinking we do, we continue in the illusion, wearing ourselves out needlessly.

For example, we can’t control people’s attitudes, what they think, what they feel, what they do. People will do what they want, not what we want, because we have no control over them. The more you try to control someone, the more tension and stress will arise within yourself and in that relationship that you actuate, craving control.

The most corrupt people live under the illusion that acquiring material goods in an illicit way will make them happy. It is an illusion to seek happiness in deceit and fraud. It is impossible to obtain inner peace in this way. You can even acquire considerable social and economic power, but I’ve treated numerous famous, wealthy people who have become depressed, addicted to drugs, suffering from difficult to treat insomnia, exaggerated fears, excessive anxiety, and some have even committed suicide, because they lived in the illusion of happiness based on material wealth, fame and social power.

When we see that control is an illusion, we can finally let go and surrender to God and let Him control our lives. This is the path to relief, serenity and mental health. And it’s not a passive attitude of doing nothing and crossing our arms. There will be plenty to be done, just now under the influence of God’s Spirit and no longer under the control of a complicated self.

Some of us, sincerely and unconsciously, try to fill a sense of loneliness and emptiness that we feel even with many people around us, through the illusion of solving it with something outside of ourselves, be it material wealth or a romantic passion, for example. It’s not uncommon for people to become compulsive shoppers, addicted to drugs, alcohol, sex, passion, the acquisition of social, economic and political power, addicted to food, to gambling, in an unconscious attempt, most of the time, to fill this mental void.

However, there is only one effective way for our lives to have meaning, producing serenity and noble purpose: it is the search for spiritual strength, the daily victory over our character defects, and the search for an attitude of service without conflicts of interest. Think about it and avoid looking in places, in people, in philosophies, ideologies, and objects to find peace and meaning in life, which is only found in goodness, justice, and truth.

Helping a man getting out of the car with a walker

The way out of our deep emotional pain, emptiness, and spiritual need does not lie in economic power, in the illusion of control over others and reality, or in drugs. It doesn’t lie in acquiring fame or any kind of power, except spiritual power, which is obtained as Jesus Christ said, by surrendering everything to Him, dying to self, losing your life in gratitude and love for what He has done, and does for those who believe in Him and surrender to Jesus unconditionally.

Give up the illusion of control; place that burden on God, the Creator of the universe. Let Him fulfill your dreams in the way, manner, and time that He sees fit. You can’t have mental maturity without spiritual health. Pray to God, the Creator of the universe, open your heart to Him, and search the Holy Scriptures for the truth, for the way God indicates how you can have goodness, justice and truth within you, which is a healing process, a miraculous divine therapy that comes to us from above. We can’t produce this in ourselves. May God help us to surrender to Him one day at a time, in the faith that by doing so, He will take over our lives, and then we will have enthusiasm, being filled with God.

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12 Tips for Dealing with Stressful Work Environments

December 17, 2023 by Martin Neumann - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

Do you dread getting out of bed every day to go to work because your work environment is too stressful? You are not alone. 75% of employees believe that workers have more on-the-job stress than a generation ago. 62% of US workers reported having high levels of stress, involving extreme fatigue or feeling out of control. And working women tend to report higher stress levels than men.((All statistics from: Workplace Stress. American Institute of Stress))

12 Tips for Dealing with Stressful Work Environments

For many it is not only the excessive workload that causes them stress, but also people issues and the work environment. You may find that the people you work with are intolerable or that the setup of your workplace is simply not conducive to getting things done efficiently. Dealing with stressful work environments is something many of us have to face every day, but you don’t have to let it get you down. Instead, by learning how to deal with your stress at work you’ll be able to boost your energy and reduce frustration.

How to Deal with Stressful Work Environments

Establish a stress-reducing morning routine. When you drown a coffee in the morning, rush your kids to school, and face the traffic madness on the way to work, probably you are already stressed before starting your work. Be sure you get up early enough to eat a substantial and healthy breakfast, do your household duties without stress, and ideally get some form of exercise, even if it is a few minutes walking around the block before you slip through the office door.

Create a daily to-do list. Many times, when we are stressed out, it’s because we are not clear on what needs to be done, and important tasks may even fall through the cracks so they need to be done under time pressure. This causes our stress levels to rise quickly and uncontrollably. When you create a to-do list, it won’t matter how hectic the office gets, you’ll have a list in front of you that’ll remind you what needs to get done for that day. You’ll feel more in control when you organize your day and you’ll be able to find some peace in the chaos surrounding you.

Be clear about your priorities. Having a to-do list is a good start, but having too many items on the list is often a source of stress. Figure out every morning what are the priorities that need to get done and focus on the most important task of this list. Don´t worry about the other items on the list, you are not supposed to finish it all in one day. If your supervisor defines your schedule, check in to figure out the priorities that are most important for the day. Being clear on the priorities makes you fret less about the secondary tasks.

Practice good time management. Efficiently manage your time by setting realistic deadlines and avoiding procrastination. If you are a perfectionist, you may fall for the temptation to spend too much time on a task to get it perfect and neglect some other things in the process that get undone for lack of time. Estimate how much time you want to spend on every task, and once the time is over, look at how you can wrap it up. Sometimes we underestimate the work involved and will need some extra time, but if you are tempted to spend your time in an endless routine of polishing your work, step back for a minute and remind yourself about the other tasks that need your attention, so you do not lose out on the big picture. Be sure to schedule your jobs well ahead of their deadlines, so you do not need to accomplish them under stressful time pressure.

Take short breaks. When we are under pressure, we often think that breaks are a luxury we cannot afford. We are trying to push through the day, but pretty soon stress is piling up until we are losing our minds. Actually, we will be much more productive when scheduling some regular 5-minute breaks in a 40 to 60 minute interval. Take just a moment to get up, walk around the block, watch the birds outside the window, or get a glass of water. Then you get back to work with new energy and a concentrated mind. Soon you will realize how you can handle your workload with ease.

Detach and recover after work. Work stress tends to pile up throughout the day, and long after we have left through the office door, the work challenges are still ruminating in our minds. We can break the cycle and engage in a recovery activity right after work. Listen attentively to music on your way home. Classical music will be especially effective since it involves you mentally. Get out into nature and actively observe your environment. Watch a squirrel finding a nut or a duck caring for her chicks. Engage in a hobby when coming home, and as paradox as it seems, the more engaging and demanding the free time activity you choose, the better you can recuperate from work stress. And resist the temptation to take work home or to answer work emails in the after-hours.

Avoid distractions and multitasking. Sometimes we think the more projects we handle at the same time, the more we will get done. Actually, exactly the opposite is true. Trying to divide the attention between two tasks is a surefire recipe for becoming inefficient. Our minds are simply not made to process two things at the same time. For maximum performance, we need to concentrate on the task at hand. Get your to-do list and determine the most important task to tackle first. Then you do not touch anything else until the task is done. Be sure to switch off your cell phone and the “You´ve got mail” alerts. Let your co-workers know that you need some distraction-free time. As soon as you have got your focus on the job, go for it with all your attention.

Establish healthy boundaries. If you are known for taking on the challenges of everybody else in the company, it is a surefire way to get burnout. People get lazy if they know there is somebody else to resolve what they did not manage to do. Avoid overcommitting to other people’s projects, when you have already too much on your plate for yourself. Be very clear in communicating your boundaries and limitations. If you have planned a weekend outing with your family, make it clear that you are not available to work overtime. Everybody needs to carry a fair share of their workload and responsibilities for themselves.

Create a space conducive to concentration. If your office is open-concept, you may find the hustle and bustle around you to be distracting. If this is the case, try setting up your workspace so that everything you need is right in front of you, so you don’t have to continually get up to grab stuff. Also, try putting up a privacy screen (if possible), or rearranging your furniture or computer screen to create a barrier of sorts between you and the rest of the office.

An office space with drawer placed to produce privacy

Be proactive in your communication. It is very tempting to assume that everybody else knows what is in your head and is on the same page with you. But in reality, misunderstandings happen frequently because of poor communication. Be sure to frequently align your priorities with your colleagues and supervisors. Assure that everybody is pulling in the same direction. When problems arise, be sure to express your thoughts calmly and assertively. Avoid bottling up emotions until you explode. And always be open for constructive feedback without going into defense mode.

Learn to delegate. It is tempting to think that you are always the best person to get the job done and there is nobody else to replace you. Continue to think like that for a while until you are burned out and have to delegate your work to somebody else. More often than we think somebody else can do your work just as well and you can give your colleagues a chance to develop new skills. Once you have delegated something, do not go back to fuss around with the work you have passed on to somebody else. Accept that your colleague may do things slightly differently. Focus on the tasks that you do best and that really will turn the ship around, but let others handle some of your nitty gritty stuff that is easy to resolve.

Move around within the company or find a better fit elsewhere. Many people simply cannot overcome the stressful environment in which they work. Besides, no one should work in a situation where they always feel on edge! If you have a job that is too demanding or rarely allows you to tend to your personal life, then it may be time to find a better fit. The same is true if you feel yourself at the wrong place. Nothing is more stressful than doing something all day long that you do not like. Getting a new job can be stressful in itself, but when you find something that is right for you, you’ll notice the old way of stressful living will dissipate and you’ll be left with a happier, healthier, and more peaceful life.

Workplace stress is at an all-time high, but in many cases, you’ll be able to overcome this stress using the workplace stress tips mentioned above. If the work environment becomes too stressful and toxic to deal with, you’ll want to take action. After all, you must put yourself first if prolonged and unmanaged stress becomes destructive to your body and mind.

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Mind/Body Health Connections

December 10, 2023 by Vicki Griffin - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

It was 1944 and winter in Auschwitz, the concentration camp for Jewish prisoners in World War II. Dr. Viktor Frankl was a prisoner there. He noted the effects of discouragement and loss of hope on prisoners: He recorded that in December “the prisoners had lived in the naïve hope that they would be home again by Christmas. As the time drew near and there was no encouraging news, the prisoners lost courage and disappointment overcame them. This had a dangerous influence on their powers of resistance and a great number of them died.”((Frankl V. Man’s Search for Meaning.Simon and Schuster, New York, NY. 1984. p. 84.))

Can Attitude Really Make a Difference?

Science confirms the link between mindset and physical and mental health: “A person’s psychological state is a prominent factor in health.”((Beaton R. Effects of Stress and Psychological Disorders on the Immune System (article).)) “Attitude, social networks, and a healthy diet are woven together in their importance for physical and mental health.”((Ibid, quotation by Kathryn O. Tacy.)) These factors affect the immune system and how a person takes care of themselves.

Attitudes such as forgiveness, faith, optimism, happiness, perseverance under stress, and trust in God are linked with reduced risk for heart disease, high blood pressure, infection, ill health, and countless stress-related conditions. These attitudes also lessen the severity of illness and speed recovery when it occurs.((Ibid.))

A steady state of grief, worry, hostility, unforgiveness, hopelessness, and depression increase the risk of infection, inflammatory conditions and disease, and slower recovery from sickness.((Ader R. Psychoneuroimmunology. Elsevier Press, USA, 2007. p. 766.))

Many factors contribute to disease. Positive, perky people get sick, and critical, crabby people escape illness. However, a positive mind set is as important to good health as better-known factors such as exercise, and diet. The mind and body are intimately connected.

Remove that “Worry Wart”

Do you have a “worry wart” that needs removal? Are you plagued by a negaholic, naysayer attitude that sends you on mountain-climbing trips over molehills? Practicing the following seven suggestions may help tip your mental scales toward the positive side of life:

1. Smile. Smiling is free—but its benefits are priceless. It lowers stress hormones in the brain, improves memory and learning, and powers up the body’s immune system. It also improves your looks!

2. Express Gratitude. People who express gratitude tend to live longer, healthier lives, have stronger bones, fewer heart attacks, and lower blood pressure. Mentally rehearsing or writing a list of daily blessings is a powerful buffer against mental depression and physical illness.

3. Focus on Positives. Continually ruminating over sad events or worrisome thoughts over stimulates a part of the brain known as “area 25” which is linked to many kinds of depression. A researcher noted: “Attitude is one thing humans have great control over, but for the most part people choose to let their attitude run them, or they think their situation has to change before their attitude can change, which is usually not the case.”((Ref. 2 and 3.)) Concentrating on positive solutions and opportunities will help “tone down” area 25 and turn off negative ruminating.

A positive looking woman expressing hope

4. Forgive. Harboring anger and grudges hurts the heart, increases stress hormones, blood pressure, and increases a host of physical diseases and mental maladies. An act may not be excusable, but it is forgivable. Charlotte Witvliet, PhD, notes that when people think about their offenders in more forgiving ways their emotional health, sense of control, and physical health improve. Forgiving others and also forgiving oneself allows you to let the injury go. The healing spirit of forgiveness is a gift that God will bestow to all who ask.

5. Get up, don’t give up. Successful people are not mistake free—they just refuse to give up. Can you think of a mistake you made that taught you some valuable lessons and caused you to move forward with a new and better plan? Maybe it was not funny at the time, but now it may even put a smile on your face as you think about it now.

6. Nurture your brain and body. Nutrition and lifestyle powerfully effect brain function, mood, memory, and learning. According to Andrew McCulloh, Director of the Mental Health Foundation, UK, we are just beginning to understand the profound link between nutrition and mental health.

Eating whole grains, fresh fruits and vegetables, nuts, and beans has a long-term mood and brain boosting effect that no snack cake can rival! Drinking water instead of caffeinated and sugary beverages improves alertness naturally. Adequate rest is essential for resisting fatigue and irritability. And daily exercise—especially in the sunshine and fresh air, has a calming, stress-lowering effect often more powerful than antidepressants.

7. Get busy about others. Offer to help someone in some way—even a little courtesy like opening a door for someone else—can boost your own health and may even help relieve depression. Studies show that those who spend regular time helping others not only cut their overall risk of death by 35%, but also improve heart health and quality of life.

Call to Action: The Living Word

Chronic anxiety and fear are the opposite of trust. Trusting in God is the most potent weapon against mental and physical illness.

“Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.”
Psalm 62:8

God has promised to fill you with hope and peace as you trust in Him. When trouble comes, when you are perplexed, when you need a friend, God is there to calm your heart and deliver you. He has a plan for your future, guidance for each day, strength to impart during times of trial and grace to give you courage when you make mistakes. He has a plan for successful, abundant living. He is ready today to help you make choices that benefit your brain-body connection—and experience the difference it makes! He invites you to come to Him for spiritual rest and power for abundant living. Will you receive His plan?

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The Problems of Cell Phone Abuse

December 3, 2023 by Dr. Cesar Vasconcellos de Souza - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

On January 17, 2020, the famous American newspaper New York Times published an article in which the author claimed that parents shouldn’t worry about how much time their children spend using technology, such as cell phones, tablets and computers.((Popper N. Panicking About Your Kids’ Phones? New Research Says Don’t. The New York Times, Jan. 17, 2020)) That’s because, at least according to some experts, too much screen time is not related to their health and well-being. Really?

The other day, I was reading a quote by someone who said that often the only thing that’s true in a newspaper is the date. Let’s take a look at this to see if it really makes sense, which was published in the New York Times, being evaluated by Dr. Jean Twenge, who is a professor of psychology at San Diego State University in California, United States, and author of a book called “iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy – and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood.” ((Twenge J. Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy – and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood. Atria Books)) This new book is the fruit of research based on surveys and interviews involving 11 million young people and offers us a reflection on today’s growing generation of teenagers and young adults, born in the mid-1990s through to 2012.

The title of the book, “iGen”, has the letter “i” at the beginning, meaning internet. This university professor analyzes the millions of young people who grew up with cell phones and social media accounts before they have started high school. So, the New York Times published that parents shouldn’t worry about how much time their children spend using technology, such as cell phones, tablets, and computers, because, at least according to some experts, too much screen time is not related to the health and well-being of these children and young people.

Do you think this information is correct or do you find it difficult to accept? If you find it hard to believe, you’re right. Several statements by the author of that famous newspaper article are wrong, deceptive or both. Let’s take a look at statements he made that contain shameful errors, according to Dr. Jean Twenge.

Firstly, the article makes a gross misrepresentation about the research consensus on the use of technology and mental health. The author implies that the majority of researchers have concluded that the use of technology is not related to mental health. But that’s not the case. His article in the New York Times failed to mention many medical journal articles that have found substantial links between technology use and mental health. These studies were published in the Journal of Psychiatry of the American Medical Association, the Journal of Pediatrics of the American Medical Association, the Lancet, Journal of Clinical Medicine and the Lancet, Journal of Child and Adolescent Health.

A sign saying: Please destroy cell phones before entering

Dr. Jean, from San Diego State University, the author of this report I’m presenting to you, says that the New York Times didn’t even mention the best studies drawn from medical journals, and what’s even more intriguing, is that she had provided the reporter with a detailed list. Secondly, the newspaper article also misrepresents a recent review of studies on time spent with electronics and mental health. The author mentioned that the link between social media use and depressive symptoms is between 0.11 and 0.17, concluding that these are small effects. Dr. Jean refutes this, saying that the results of young people’s excessive exposure to social media are not harmless, and in fact are not small.

She cites important research carried out by the US Centers for Disease Control (CDC) with high school students, which found that twice as many heavy users of electronic devices, those who spend five or more hours a day accessing the internet, compared to light users who spend one hour a day, attempt suicide. In percentages, this means 12% of suicides among heavy internet users versus 6% among light users. Twice as many heavy smartphone users have a low level of well-being. Twice as many internet users are unhappy, and twice as many women who overuse social media are depressed. This is not small, as the New York Times article stated.

The New York Times article quotes experts who, without plausible evidence, dismiss the possibility that the rise of social media and smartphones could be behind the sharp increase in depression, self-harm and suicide in teenagers in recent years. Dr. Jean comments that 2013 was the first year that the majority of Americans owned a smartphone. In 2018, 95% of teenagers had access to a smartphone, and 45% said they were online almost constantly. The period after 2012 is also when social media use went from optional to virtually mandatory among teenagers, and the biggest increases in self-harm, poisoning and suicide occurred among girls aged 10 to 14.

However, the use of technology differs by gender. Girls spend more time on social networks, which can be more toxic than the games that are more popular with boys. The links between technology time and well-being are also stronger among girls than boys. Therefore, if technology is playing a role in the increase in adolescent mental health problems, the increases should be greater among girls, and they are, as Dr. Jean comments in her research.

A girl in front of the computer, worrying about here image on social media.

In the New York Times article, it was stated that the researchers who claim that the use of technology is not related to well-being and mental health have not received any funding from the tech industry. They said that. However, Dr. Jean said that one of the researchers is an employee of the Oxford Internet Institute, which is funded by Facebook, Google and Microsoft. Another researcher was also, until some time ago, linked to the institution.

So the role of parents in controlling their children’s use of electronics is crucial for the well-being of children and young people, for social, educational and even spiritual performance. According to Dr. Jean, parents should limit their children’s use of technology to around 2 hours a day, avoiding use at bedtime. Difficult, right? She explains that parents can be sure that their instincts to protect their children from too much screen time are correct.

She makes a comparison, saying that if children who ate five apples a day instead of just one were twice as likely to attempt suicide, parents would make sure their children didn’t eat too many apples. Why should our response to technology time be any different, right? Think about it. Protect yourself and especially your children from excessive internet use, whether on cell phones or social networks. This is important for your mental health and theirs.

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Four Habits That Can Reduce Your Stress Levels

November 19, 2023 by Martin Neumann - [rt_reading_time label="Reading Time:" postfix="minutes" postfix_singular="minute"]

We all have habits. Some of those habits are more helpful for us than others. What if yours could help you to control your stress?

4 Habits That Can Reduce Your Stress Levels

We are all exposed to stress. It becomes problematic if we are facing high levels of chronic stress. Some of us face more stress than others. For instance, if you’re in a particularly challenging job, or you’re struggling with your relationship, you might find that your stress levels are overly high.

The good news? There are simple things you can do to reduce your stress levels!

Here are 4 simple stress-reducing habits to develop:

Journaling

Journaling is an often-underestimated practice. Writing down your thoughts and feelings helps you to organize them more effectively. This can also help with processing complex ideas or coming up with creative solutions for your challenges.

There are tons of ways to get started with journaling. Some people simply grab a notepad and a pen and get to it. Others prefer using journaling apps that come with prompts to guide them. It’s all about finding what works for you.
You can use many different styles. Some like to write in the format of a letter to themselves or someone they have issues with. That can help to let go of traumatic events of the past. You can also write down some keywords or abstract thoughts. Choose any format that works for you.
If you don’t want to waste paper, or simply prefer typing, don’t worry. You can create your journal just as well on your computer.

A woman sitting in a lawn writing a journal

Exercise

If you’re constantly facing high levels of stress, you might think you don’t have time to exercise. After long days at work or tough days looking after the kids, sometimes all you want to do is sit down and relax.

While there’s nothing wrong with taking a break, it does help to get more physical activity into your schedule whenever you can. Making a regular dose of exercise part of your daily schedule could make a huge impact on your life.
You could do something simple, like walking the dog or taking a bike ride. Or you could look into joining health classes and learning how to do something new. There are even classes you can take online these days.
Exercise is great for boosting endorphins, strengthening self-esteem, and protecting you against a range of ailments.
Try to get in an exercise block close to your stressor. If you had a stressful phone call, get up and run three times around the block. Get a walk just before going to work if you expect some stressful events to happen that day.

Enjoy some music

Here’s a hobby we can probably all get behind. Who doesn’t love music?

Music is capable of influencing our mood. It can make us feel motivated or relaxed. Therapists and medical professionals often recommend listening to music for its health-enhancing properties.
Music can be a fantastic way to relieve stress, physically and emotionally, and it can even reduce your stress perception, by allowing you to relax more completely.
There are tons of ways to add a little music to your day. You can play your favorite songs on your commute to work or just play some music in the background when you’re cooking in the kitchen.
Choose wisely the music you use at every occasion. Different music styles can produce different effects on the body. Choose a music that will fit the occasion and is aligned with your personal taste. It will help you to reduce your stress levels and give a boost to your mood.

A woman with headphones listening to relaxing music

Socialize

Finally, it’s worth remembering from time to time that human beings are social creatures. When we’re feeling sad, stressed, or less than our best, it’s common to want to isolate. However, the best thing you can usually do during these difficult times is to connect with others.

You don’t need to be face-to-face to feel the benefits. Whenever possible you can give a friend or family member a call or video chat with them.
If you do happen to have access to someone nearby that you love, arrange to have a cup of tea with them or just give them a hug the next time you’re nearby.
Remembering that you’re not in this alone is great for your mood, and socializing can significantly strengthen your confidence too.

Instilling these enjoyable habits into your daily routines will have a positive impact on your life, while greatly reducing your stress levels. Try it! You’ll like it!

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